Below are some simple things you can do to make each other happy and get back on track, if you’re both deeply unhappy then it may be worth speaking to a relationship counsellor.
Do Something You Both Want To Do
You both want to enjoy each other’s company so it would be good to do activities you both enjoy together. It could be something as simple as you both enjoy movies, playing games or even going hiking together. There are plenty of suggestions of hobbies to pick up.
If you don’t have any hobbies in common then consider alternating the activity. One week you what you enjoy and the other week you do what they like. Compromise is important in relationships.
Support Them
Supporting your partner with issues they have is crucial. It could be something small such as positive reinforcement or it could be something they need help with.
For example, perhaps they want to quit smoking? You may think the best way is for them to quit cold turkey but history has proven this to be difficult. So perhaps, instead, you could help them slowly quit.
One technique that can be helpful is to move to vaping instead of smoking. There are several benefits to doing this. Firstly, your partner will save more money as the price of cigarettes continues to rocket. Once you’ve bought a vape device from your local vape shop then it will last you a long time. My Cigara offers a range of flavours of e-liquid and types of vape equipment, so you can find one that suits your partner.
The bonus of vape devices too is that you can get a variety of different e-liquids ranging from fruity flavours to more sweet dessert classics such as Vanilla Custard. There are also non-nicotine e-liquids too that IndeJuice offers so it’s a healthier habit and can help you get off cigarettes and nicotine.
Trying to force your partner to quit smoking outright could be met with hostility. So if you support them slowly it will go a long way.
Listen To Each Other
It sounds simple, but listening to what each other want and say is so crucial. It’s easy to hear but it’s important to listen. This goes both ways, you want to make sure that both of you are being respected. It’s such an easy thing, to just let each other speak without being interrupted it goes a long way.
There’s plenty of advice on how to listen if you’re struggling or don’t know how to explain the concept to your significant other. No one should feel ashamed about opening up to concepts and having real conversations
Give Space When Needed
When you’re in a relationship you can quite easily get reliant on each other and sometimes it’s nice to have time to yourself. I’m not saying you need to take a break but just give each other space to breathe when you need it. Have some of your own interests and hobbies and take time out to do these.
Sometimes the hardest thing to is to take a step back in order to take two steps forward. Advice such as the above will go a long way in helping both of you move healthily into a stable relationship.
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