Have you tried a dash of honesty?
You may be able to save yourself a lot of time and effort by just sitting down with your boyfriend and discussing where you imagine your relationship going. It needn’t be an awkward conversation; just discuss with your partner why you want to get married and he should soon start to understand just how much he means to you. Sometimes people have the same fears and doubts within a relationship, but they are just too afraid to address them with each other. By talking about your future together, he’ll know that you want to be a part of it.
Can you increase your time spent with couples who are married?
It could well be that your other half may have become anxious or worried about the thought of getting married, and so has put off popping the question. Try to resolve this by hanging around with friends who are happily married, as well as family members who also have children. This will make him realise that you’re comfortable with him being around others in more serious relationships.
Yes, you will see both the highs and lows of married life as you increase the time you spend with couples who have already tied the knot, however, at the very least it should also get your boyfriend picturing a wonderful married life with you. Although men who have parents that are divorced sometimes struggle to trust this commitment, replacing negative feelings with positive ones in this type of environment may help to bring him around to your way of thinking.
Do you see yourself as your boyfriend’s go-to guy?
Never allow your relationship to get to the point where you and your partner have assigned specific roles as a couple. If it has already developed to this point, it’s time that you become your other half’s go-to guy as well as girlfriend instead. If you’re constantly being left behind for the guys, then this is going to put a strain on his ability to propose and take you seriously.
Being a go-to guy can involve something as simple as deciding to exercise together where it’s possible, as well as taking a vested interest in his hobbies and interests. If you can be part of his whole life, rather than just someone he spends time with, then he’ll feel like you’re indispensable. Once you get to this point in your relationship, then he’ll feel like proposing, as he can’t spend his time without you!
Being a go-to guy can involve something as simple as deciding to exercise together where it’s possible, as well as taking a vested interest in his hobbies and interests. If you can be part of his whole life, rather than just someone he spends time with, then he’ll feel like you’re indispensable. Once you get to this point in your relationship, then he’ll feel like proposing, as he can’t spend his time without you!
Have you tried some tough love?
Have the top three suggestions failed to deliver the results you were looking for? Then it may be time to be cruel to be kind. If you don’t see your relationship heading in the right direction, and things are flatlining, tell him you are considering moving out and mean it.
Alternatively, a gentler approach that still shows that you’re taking a stand is to start going out with friends more or changing careers without getting your boyfriend’s advice. Although he knows that you’re always there for him, this will make him feel that he isn’t being as included as he should be, and he’ll start to wonder why. Keeping him on his toes in this way will make him realise that he needs to put the effort in (by proposing!) so that he can get your undivided effort and attention in the future.
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I think it's so important to talk about it and make sure you're both on the same page when it comes to your future x
ReplyDeleteLove the idea of keeping a boyfriend on his toes and edging him towards a proposal - some men need a little push.
ReplyDeleteThis is so true I got engaged last year and these are some fab tips to think about as it is a serious commitment x
ReplyDeleteI get being honest about wanting to get married but honestly, these sound a bit much for me! Some are a bit harsh. Getting engaged should be natural, not done by pestering or pushing, or I would worry about why they are committing.
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriend always thought engagements should be a complete surprise. I've tried to convince him why that would be a horrible idea!
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